So, not too long ago, I was in a bar (again) and the gentleman next to me said to the bar maid, “You’re just a good time girl, right, Jeanie?”
First, I was horrified that this guy basically called this girl a slut right to her face (that’s what that means to us, in woman language, you know). She ignored him. So he says, “You just like to go out and have a good time.” I think she ignored him again, or mumbled something dismissive.
I looked at this normally very nice gentleman, and all I could think was, “There is no such thing as a good time girl.” That is, a girl that just wants to go out and have sex, after the age of 25. And the ones under 25 are out looking…for a partner, but they’re not sure what they want yet, so they are just kind of going out and experimenting. They seem like good time girls, but they are really just fishing.
Myself, I often seem like a good time girl. I like to go out and party, but that’s just a preference over staying in and watching tv—the way I like to enjoy myself.
So, how do I know there aren’t good time girls out there? There are all those strippers, and “Girls Gone Wild” videos and chics in porn flix, right?
All women, saddled with the possibility of a child or a disease from having sex or a “good time” want or need something so badly they will put up with those possibilities. Strippers and porn chics want money. Girls Gone Wild—or any chic willing to do body shots, etc., are not lucid anyway, but they want attention. Women with kids need general help, and of course, your avuncular attitude toward their kids. A lot of women are looking for marriage, because in our society, still, you are not a success without a man in your life. Some women want you to take care of them financially. Myself, I like companionship, someone to keep the jerks away when I go out to see bands, and a regular sex partner (cause I hate condoms).
Sidebar:
Love? Of course we love. I am talking about the beginning of things, because it takes a while for love to develop. But even after we love, isn’t it nice to be needed?
Back to the main show:
Sorry to debunk the “Good Time Girl” myth. All girls--even sexy girls--have lives, hard ones too, with consequences. And we all exist when you are not here.
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I was contemplating this, just the other night, about pornos. I mean, it's not just for the sake of ridiculous sex that these women make these things. Kind of sad.
ReplyDeleteBut perhaps it's a little different than being a 'good time girl,' because with pornos at least you're getting paid.
Well, they are obviously not good time girls: sex is a job for these women. They are actors. I imagine they have their good days and bad days, people they do and don't like to work with, and a hard time getting themselves to go to work.(Lucky for them, drug use is not only ok, but expected!)
ReplyDeleteI actually feel there is a certain integrity when it comes to porn chics, over the chics who think that they are going to get love or some kind of commitment just for giving some guy a blow job. I find the latter more underhanded.